Bespoke wedding vows for the modern Australian bride
“I take you, _______, for my lawful husband/wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer…”
We’ve all heard these vows recited – whether in our favourite Hollywood movies or at our aunt’s wedding – and it’s a beautiful way to publicly commitment between two consenting adults.
But, if you’re a non-traditionalist and want to do something different, you might prefer the idea of writing your own wedding vows. After all, they can often be more heartfelt because they’re personalised to you + your future spouse’s relationship.
If you’re wondering where or how to start, Michelle Shannon can help! She is the Byron Bay Celebrant, and she’s been marrying incredible couples for almost 10 years – so there’s nobody better informed than her to tell us how to write our own wedding vows.
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“Writing your own wedding vows is one of the most daunting tasks that you can do. Some of us may know exactly what to say, while others won’t have any idea how to start!” Michelle shares her tips on the LENZO Edit today, so grab a pen + paper to take down her wonderful insights!
Top 6 tips for writing your own wedding vows
- Keep it real (and please don’t try to rhyme anything!)
- Google is your secret weapon and is a great tool if you’re stuck on ideas of what to say.
- Say it from the heart. Most wedding vows are 30 seconds to 1 minute of your life – that’s not much time to express how you really feel, so make the most of it.
- Start with a few questions to yourself – what do you love about the other? What do you want to promise and hope to deliver? It’s important to be authentic, have some fun, and don’t overpromise or under-deliver.
- Read them off a card or vow booklet – you will never be able to remember them by heart (trust me, I know!)
- Most importantly, have fun and BE YOU!
And what’s Michelle’s extra piece of advice she can give you for writing your own wedding vows? She says, “Your family and friends are there to support you, love you and be part of the celebrations - as long as you are yourself, everything just falls into place.”
Examples of personalised wedding vows
Michelle tells us, “Some of the best vows haven’t always been the longest. Once, I married my friends, and Dan told me he wanted to tell Renee just one line. He said:
“Renee, I promise to love, protect, and adore you for the rest of my life.”
That was it! He said it with such conviction, that I was sold.
Then, there’s the fun stuff: Jess and Mitch, who have been together 13 years and had obviously been lovers of songs, television commercials + shows. Mitch wrote as a part of his vows:
“Jess, I promise to keep loving you and making memories, to make you happy, to outwit, outplay, and outlast life with you. To forever keep turning 25 years old; you are simply the best, better than all the rest, the mum’s spaghetti of my life. Love you always.”
Michelle points out, “There are also the legal vows, which must be included in your ceremony to make your marriage legal. These next few lines are added to your personal vows by myself – either at the beginning or the end:
"I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, A.B. (or C.D.), take thee, C.D. (or A.B.), to be my lawful wedded (wife/husband/spouse).
Need a little more help? If you’re not a writer at heart, Michelle can send you 10 examples of great wedding vows for couples – without any obligation of being your celebrant. From fun vows to touching phrases, longer, or short and sweet, just contact Michelle from Byron Bay Celebrant and she’ll be happy to help!
Love, LENZO x